inspirational

TADA!

A wonderful time for many is almost upon us, but it is SUCH a busy time. I’m 54 years old and I feel like my life should be slowing down a bit, but honestly, at the moment (and for most of this year), it feels like it’s speeding up. Can any of you relate? Sometimes I feel like there are so many thoughts in my head of things I need to do, and the list is getting longer. I’m convinced that much of this is to do with the chaotic world we live in. Have you seen the Kitkat advert? A man’s sitting at his desk, overwhelmed with the work he has to do, so he decides it’s time to take a break. As he leaves his desk and walks out of the office, hundreds of post-it notes follow him and stick to him from head to toe. At this time of year, many of the things we need to do are in preparation for a special time, but it can still make you feel like you’re drowning in your “to do” list.

For the man in the advert, it’s a Kitkat that brings relief but I believe that it’s God who can truly bring us peace in the chaos. He’s with you every second of every day and it’s hard for Him, because when we’re so distracted, He can’t bring us rest. Though it feels like it’s so difficult to switch off and rest in His peace, He’s waiting to take you to a spacious place where He can bring you rest. Miraculously, He can do that right in the midst of the chaos…we just need to give Him a small amount of time and attention. Funnily enough, that’s what Christmas is meant to be…a time of peace! God sent Jesus to earth ultimately to bring us into freedom and relationship with Him. He’s here to help you.

I find it really helpful to commit my day to Him at the very start and ask Him to order it. When I do that and recognise His presence right at the beginning of my day, it’s amazing how much I can get done and how much things fall into place.

I can do all things through Him who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13

A friend once told me about the “tada” list. It really helps you to focus on the positive. Instead of looking at your “to do” list at the end of the day and thinking “I still have soooo much to do”, look at it and think “tada” I got this done, this completed and I managed to do this and that. What I didn’t get done, I’ll do tomorrow”. Just a thought and it really helps me.

Today, commit your day to God to manage and see how many things “tada” you got done!

Have a wonderful and peaceful Christmas and New Year. He’s got you!

Quinoa!

I’m so sorry it’s been so long since I’ve been able to blog.  Life has been a chaotic whirlwind this year and we have been having our kitchen done…dern dern dern!  Never would I have thought there would have been so much involved in this and so much more to be discovered that needed to be dealt with!  Anyway, finally, we were enjoying the peace that filled our workmen free home and our beautiful new kitchen.  Everything seemed so clean and so neat and tidy…until…quinoa descended! 

We’ve been trying out one of the well known companies who deliver fresh food and indeed all the ingredients to make a delicious meal and it’s going really well.  One of the items, however, on this sunny Tuesday, was quinoa! Glen, who does all the cooking in our house, as I’m unable to due to my health condition, had never cooked this before.  He was completely unaware of its need to escape the bowl and hide in every crevice!  Yes sure, we enjoyed eating the meal but every time we thought we’d got rid of it, more appeared!  In fact, we were finding bits of quinoa for days afterwards, so it is now banned from our lovely shiny new kitchen!

Of course I’m joking about something trivial, but it’s like when you have something troublesome in your life that you keep having to deal with.  Something that you know you need to learn or something that God is trying to teach you and it keeps on cropping up at the most uncomfortable times. You think you’ve just got on top of it and it rears its ugly head again.  It keeps on getting in the way of you just moving on with your life.  

 As so many of us are often striving for perfection, we struggle with those niggling things that keep on arising.  I know, you know already but let me tell you – no-one is perfect and you cannot fix everything neatly.  There are many things we have to learn over a period of time and that involves living life and facing that particular issue in different ways.  Maybe it’s because of something that happened in the past and now you overreact when a similar situation arises.  Maybe it’s a fear of something and an area in your life where you find it hard to trust God and certain circumstances trigger it.  It might be that anger arises in you too easily and you find it hard to control it.  There are many many examples I could use but all of them point to the same thing. We need to accept that learning and healing takes time and we can either go with the process or we can resent it.  One is the path to peace and the other to frustration.  

Proverbs 3:5-6 NIV in the Bible says:

Today, at this point in your life, choose to relinquish control to the God who loves you beyond measure and trust that He will take you on this journey of life in His perfect timing.  He’s got you! 

The real beauty

Our son is really interested in watches and how they work. As a gift, we wanted to buy him something larger to tinker with and discover, so we bought him a chiming Westminster Clock. My husband had worked in someone’s house who stripped them down and displayed them in a much more contemporary way and as our son is an artist, we thought this may interest him. When it arrived, we were really pleased with it and once it settled in, it was working perfectly.

We ended up keeping this clock for much longer than we had anticipated, as we were both ill and then so was Sam, so we got really used to it’s beautiful chimes every quarter of an hour.

It’s antique wood was polished and graced with beautiful curves. The glass door at the front opened to reveal a beautifully shiny and perfect face and it sang out with a melodic chime every 15 mins. I will mention at this point, that thankfully we could turn this off at night, as at that time, it may not have been such a welcomed noise! Apologies for the quality of some of the photos, as I took them from the original listing. I should have taken photos of it’s lovely form whilst it was here but unfortunately…I didn’t!

The time eventually came when the clock was finally introduced to it’s new owner. Sam was absolutely thrilled with it and immediately mesmerised with it’s beautiful chimes, which were produced by the clock’s tiny four hammers inside. He immediately opened the back of the clock to see the notes being tapped out in perfect harmony. Every cog turned slowly, as it’s intricate design caused it to tick exactly as it was created to do.

As our son proudly and carefully carried it to the car to take it to it’s new home, my husband and I were really glad that he was so happy with it, but unexpectedly, a little sad to see it go.

Less than an hour later we received the photo on the above right. I’ll be honest, as much as we expected this to happen, we were a bit shocked, but knowing full well that the beauty and proper workings of the clock were behind the face, Sam couldn’t wait to reveal it and had broken the outside of it away to reveal the inside. This was the part that was behind the face, which no-one ever saw and I’m sure you’ll agree, it is truly amazing! He is going to proudly display it on it’s new stand for all to enjoy.

I’m sure by now, you’re cracking on to what I’m getting at with this little story. To keep up with “appearances” and often to people please, most of us have a shiny and pleasing outer shell. That’s not to say that people don’t hear the beautiful chimes of the real person inside from time to time but we often want them to see what we want them to see and no more, in case they reject us.

The world is full of opportunities to “case polish”. Anti-ageing creams, expensive fashion and camera filters. All of which cost a small fortune. I’ll admit, I’m not so interested in those things but where I have “case polished” in my life has been more about saying the “right” things, doing the “right” things and avoiding conflict. It’s interesting to me that each and EVERY person is different. Every individual is crafted uniquely, yet, we spend so much time trying to be anything but ourselves. In doing so, sadly, we are concealing the real beauty of who we are inside.

I Samuel 16:7b, the Bible says

For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.

God is interested in who we really are on the inside, not a polished front we create for others to see, which is why it is that, that He works on. It says in 2 Corinthians 4:16

So no wonder we don’t give up. For even though our outer person gradually wears out, our inner being is being renewed every single day.

The Bible says in Romans that God works everything together for good. That is to say, He uses everything we go through to grow us, mould us and shape us on the inside. If we don’t allow Him in, then He’s unable to do that. We might think we’re keeping Him from seeing who we really are but He sees us and knows us completely. There’s nothing we can hide from Him. He sees the beauty within us, even when we can’t and He can give us the strength to emerge from hiding who we really are, so we can build true and authentic relationships.

It may be scary to allow yourself to feel vulnerable in letting people see and get to know the real you but it’s the most precious and beautiful part of you. Yes, it’s a risk but it’s where true and real relationships are made. What’s sad is that everyone is so often concerned with covering up the real person within them, that it causes more shame in other people’s lives because they feel they can’t match up to the perfection that’s being portrayed. They feel they’re alone in the things they’re going through. When we allow ourselves to open up, people can relate to us so much better, empathise and understand us more.

I absolutely love this awesome quote from Brené Brown

We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honour the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection.

The cogs of that beautiful clock are now in full view and yes, more vulnerable to being knocked or damaged, but now can be so much more appreciated and loved for what really makes up the clock.

I encourage you today to relax in your own skin. Make peace with who you are and break open that outer shell so that people can see the beautiful person you really are. It doesn’t all happen in one day…one step at a time. What step are you going to take today?

Menopause: nothing or definitely something??

I guess the answer to this question will span over a large spectrum. Some women breeze through the menopause and have no idea what other women are talking about when they complain of symptoms. For others, it changes their lives out of all recognition. I would put myself right in the middle of that range.

As I grew older and into “that window” (btw…how on earth did I get here already??), I expected to start having hot flushes and night sweats. I was familiar with the fact that I might become a bit forgetful. However, I was not prepared for the thick blanket of brain fog…the rollercoaster of mood…feeling like I don’t quite know myself anymore…or losing my motivation and creativity (it was still there…I just had to make myself search for it!).

Maybe you’re going through this right now and feel completely lost…

What on earth is happening to me?

Why don’t I feel in control of my life anymore?

I’m normally so organised but at the moment, holding my plans and keeping on top of things feels like trying to keep hold of a pile of wet fish!

I can’t get out of bed in a morning with all these aches and pains, everyone is getting on my nerves and my head feels like mush (oh wait a sec while I just have a hot flush)!

Sound familiar?

It’s so often at times like these that we try to “fix” ourselves and “make” ourselves be ok! Not possible I’m afraid…but there IS hope. There is some fantastic medication out there which can help to bring balance to your body and so it’s important to see a doctor (as well as having several showers a day and…) what was I going to say? I don’t know, I’ve forgotten. It’ll come back to me…(it doesn’t :D).

This is a time we need to rest in the arms of God. To hear his affirmation over us.

Psalm 91: 1-2

Those who live in the shelter of the Most High
    will find rest in the shadow of the Almighty.
This I declare about the Lord:
He alone is my refuge, my place of safety;
    he is my God, and I trust him.

No one knows us like our Father. He knows us better than we know ourselves and when our body and mind is going through a strange transition, He sees us and He understands. He never undervalues it. Yes, in the scheme of things, me or you going through the menopause is a very small thing but to us, at that time, it’s hard and He values that, He values us and walks through it with us. I think one of the hardest things about the menopause is that we’re not exactly sure when it begins and we certainly don’t know when it will end. For me, I just realised after a few years that things were calming down and I felt more motivated and less emotional. I’m still waiting for my memory to get back in line but I’m sure some of that is my age! We can’t fix what we don’t understand and what we can’t have no control over.

Phil 4:6-7

Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.

I love this…it’s the perfect model in any situation.

Don’t worry

Pray… Pour out your heart and share with God what you need

Thank Him for all He has done and is doing

When we thank Him, our focus shifts from worry and desperation, to hope and thankfulness. Try it, it really works!

Finally, as you do this, take time to rest or take a break by going for a walk and let His peace wash over you. He’s got you!